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If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector. (Matthew 18:15-17)
I’ve been in ministry with my husband for over 20 years. Throughout those years, I’ve had to work with many people in conflict. Someone would come to my husband or me to complain about what someone else had done or said to them. They had been hurt or angered by someone in the church or their family or someone close to them. They usually would come to us for guidance on how to handle the situation. Many times, they would want us to do something about it. Worse, however, is when they didn’t come talk to us at all, but instead would simply go to their friends and talk about what had happened. Many times, this gossip was done under the guise of “please pray for so and so….”
Fortunately, we’ve never had to guess or wonder about how to tell them to handle the situation. It’s called “the Matthew 18 Principle” and it comes straight from this section of Matthew chapter 18. First, we encourage them to go pray, and then, go talk to the person who has hurt them, making sure to use a good “I felt…” statement. If that doesn’t help, then we might go talk to that person WITH them. The Bible is clear on this. When someone wrongs us, we should go to them individually and prayerfully, and discuss the matter. Then, if the situation isn’t resolved, only then should we involve others.
This is how we maintain Christian unity in the body of believers, or in our marriages, or in any type of relationship. Otherwise, one hurt can lead to many other hurts. This is how Jesus tells us to handle conflict. But too often, we stew over things. We talk about people behind their backs. We hold grudges. We backstab. We get revenge. This, friends, is not dwelling in unity. This is NOT Christian love.
I focused on this passage for my page. I began with some Distress Oxides (my current favorite medium) in Ripe Persimmon and Wilted Violet. Next, I added some teal watercolor, some splatter paint, and some texture stamping in black. I then stamped my page’s with a stamp from the October Faith Art Box, as well as some stickers for the title. I topped it off with the orange-y pleather bow and my journaling. I loved the vibrancy of this page with its background, but this page could easily be simplified without all the background color.
I encourage you to practice the love of Christ in all of your relationships, and to dwell together in unity in His name! That is how we share and grow His love.
Thanks for joining me today! Leave a comment below, or in the comment section of the video. I’d love to chat with you! Blessings–