When I first read the Creative Retreat devotional for this month, I seriously thought that Ashley had been eavesdropping on my life. The relationship she described with her earthly father is almost identical to the situation that I have had, although, unfortunately, mine has not had such a happy outcome. After years of a strained relationship we have reached the point that communication is non-existent and the term “relationship” is not really accurate to describe what we have.
It’s often said to “forgive and forget” the past, but the reality for our human minds is that it’s almost impossible to forget. Sometimes heart wounds go deep and cause scars that will forever be etched in our memory. We can, however, choose to forgive and let go. Forgiving someone means saying, “you know what? Yes, you hurt me. But instead of dwelling on the hurt, I am going to place it in God’s hands and put it behind me ” I wish I could say that it’s easy to do, but the truth is, it takes a lot of strength, mentally and emotionally, to forgive someone who doesn’t necessarily deserve it. But you know what? Jesus did it for us and He asks us to do the same towards others. We did the unthinkable. We allowed sin to dictate our lives and stand between our relationship with God. We allowed our thoughts and our desires to define our lives instead of God’s. But all of that was rendered null at the foot of the cross. Praise Jesus that even when I didn’t deserve it, He offered forgiveness to me.
This side of heaven, relationships are not always going to be mended. I love how Heidi St. John says it in her book Becoming MomStrong:
“Don’t give rent-free space in your heart and mind to a situation that’s beyond your control”
If you have truly, honestly extended forgiveness to the person that hurt you, it’s ok to release it. Give yourself grace and give yourself permission to let go of toxic relationships.
“…forgiveness doesn’t mean allowing an untrustworthy person into a relationship with us. It doesn’t mean we automatically invite the person who was reckless with our emotions back into our lives. Sometimes we can. But sometimes the healthy thing to do is untangle the rope that’s tying our hurt to another person’s life and move forward…before bitterness sets us shop.” (Heidi St. John, Becoming MomStrong).
Forgive and let go. Stop talking about it. Stop thinking about it. Stop letting it have power over you and your mind. Don’t worry about what he/she thinks or says about you, focus instead on becoming the woman (or man) of God that He has called you to.
“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other as the Lord has forgiven you, so you must also forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful.” Colossians 3:12-15
Have a great week, friends!
Jennifer IG @lifeintherace
I started this page by stamping the music line from the Amazing Grace stamp set with Pumice Stone distress oxide. I then added a few music notes from the coordinating Faith-filled digital set and pieced together the words with the sticker sheet from the kit as well as last month’s Victorious kit.
I finished with a few enamels and topped the page with a tab using the wordfetti stickers.
You can still grab the digital version of this kit in the Creative Retreat shop, and while you’re there, make sure to sign up for auto-ship so you don’t miss out on the physical kit next month!